Single Girl Sh*t: When It Rains It Pours

“Sunny days, everybody loves them.  Tell me baby, can you stand the rain?  – Can You Stand the Rain, New Edition

How fitting.  As I write this post it’s raining in Bed Stuy.  I’m sitting here looking out of my living room window watching the raindrops fall.

No New Edition, I cannot stand the rain – especially when that rain is in the form of men. I know I know, I shouldn’t be complaining right?  But I am, well kinda.  I went from drought season to Monsoon season in a matter of days.  I thought I lived in Brooklyn, not southeast Asia.  What the actual hell is going on?!?!?!?!

Raining Men

Mr. Confused (click here for background story –> has decided to wait eight days after our first date to ask for a second.   Ummm, should I be flattered because I’m not.  I’m the opposite of flattered; I’m borderline annoyed at his audacity.  I haven’t responded to his vague invitation for a second date because he never proposed a specific date and time.  Hanging out over food “sometime soon” isn’t exactly my idea of a formal invitation.

I assumed what anyone would after a first date – not hearing from the other person within 24 hours is indicative of no spark or chemistry.  I took the hint and proceeded to move on.  Why wait on something that wasn’t leading anywhere?  Apparently I was wrong because he was taking his time (eight days to be exact) to ask me out again.  A lot can happen in eight days.  In my case something did, another man picked up where he left of.  You snooze, you lose.

While he slept, Thai (click here for a background story –> http:// didn’t.   We’ve been in communication every day since our first date (that almost didn’t happen) and I must say that I am enjoying every minute.  I’m not making wedding arrangements or anything, but I am enjoyed in the conversations thus far.  Thai has asked me out again and I have accepted.  So far so good right?  Then why do I feel so torn?

I am at a fork in the road and it’s time that I make a decision.  Do I date both dudes until I’m forced to make a decision or do I chose one now?  Do I see which guy I have more chemistry with?  Do I allow both men to wine and dine me (because I love eating out as much as possible, especially for free – don’t judge me)?  This is such a conundrum!  Single girl sh*t.  Single girl problems, but not too shabby of a problem to have huh?

 I am attracted to both men equally, but I must say Thai is edging Mr. Confused out for obvious reasons (he’s direct unlike his vague competition, he’s consistent, and he’s already asked me out again).  Seems like I just made a decision, or did I?

    Stay tuned…


Until next time friends!

~Pennie Penz



4 thoughts on “Single Girl Sh*t: When It Rains It Pours

  1. Girl I am so feeling where you are coming from right now. The men of today are definitely not built like they use to. These men want to do as little work as possible and reap the reward. I was recently in a similar situation I think you should date around and see who you like the best. You should date them both…why not men do it all the time! Lol. If you see that you are really not into one or the other then no harm no foul. You are the prize to be won!! I love this blog just what I needed to read tonight. Now I don’t feel do bad a bout the dating scene here in LA. Lol I see this is a world wide epidemic. Looking forward to your next post 😉

    1. Isn’t it frustrating Erin? Le sigh…. This dating game is for the birds, but I keep telling myself that I have to be in it to win it. You know you’re right? I was actually leaning towards dating both gentleman to see who would pique my interest most. Thanks for the kind words & support girl 😉 – I’m glad you were able to relate to this post. Hahaha, oh yes, this is a bi-coastal & worldwide thang indeed!

  2. Totally date both until one shows the commitment you want and you’re happy with it. There’s nothing wrong with that at all. If you choose one early on, the one you chose may change up. Cause let’s face it, men are bipolar and may vanish for no rhyme or reason. Thus, this is the reason why I stopped dating completely! But you are in a good spot right now! I see this as a positive. It may feel odd, and confusing, but you listed some great reasons. Be positive! 😉

  3. Thanks cupcakequeen! Haha, indeed, men are bipolar and disappear without any rhyme or reason sometime. I’ve decided to rock with Thai because Mr. Confused is too inconsistent for me. Speaking of Mr. Confused, he responded to my recent blog post (And Then There Was That Time… I Didn’t Know WTF Happened –> ( To say that I was surprised was an understatement (I never told him that I had a blog, he found it by happenstance). It turns out that he was just as confused as I was. Long story short, we’ve since spoken, but I’ve his cessation in communication turned me off. No hard feelings though, it is what it is. Anyway, even though I’ve decided to rock with Thai I am keeping my options open, enjoying my singledom, and meeting new people along the way. Stay tuned! 😉

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